Guidebook 1: Lessons in Unlearning & Your Mind is the Temple
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Excerpts from Guidebook 1
"Each of these lessons in unlearning gives a brief introduction to what this and other guidebooks go into greater depth and detail for exploration. My hope is that in reading this guide, you will feel less alone if the hard becomes the hardest and offer some direction when it all seems to be going nowhere."
"Every book, new trope and kink became a data point in expanding my worldview. The more I learn the less stable the foundations of what I was taught or understood about the world become."
Guidebook 1: Lessons in Unlearning & Your Mind is the Temple
- provides an understanding of the individual elements and key unlearning lessons that we must first explore in order to establish a more stable foundation of self.
- illuminates the unknown/unnamed harm & trauma of indoctrination on the mind
- Exercises include: a ME inventory, somatic visualization, self-truth telling, examination of silence as harm, releasing the why
- Coaching questions focus on building self-understanding, noticing without judgement, cultivating curiosity, establishing tenets of self-trust.
- PDF, 8.5 x 11 standard formatting
- 26 pages
Good Girls Guidebooks - FINDING YOU
Good Girl's Guidebooks - Your path to identity, self-understanding and knowing WHO AM I?
Designed to be self-directed and easily accessible for any stage in reconstructing identity after deconstruction, each guidebook contains:
The Good Girl’s Guidebooks allows you digital access (downloadable pdf) to both the felt community of lived experience from indoctrination, deconstruction, and the unconditional support of a professional coach who will champion your authenticity through powerful inquiry, expert exercises, reflective resources touched with just enough irreverence to keep you engaged in the work of reconstruction of identity.
Content Warnings: These guidebooks are a HOLY irreverent account of deconstructing the indoctrination of religion while forging deep interpersonal belonging and authentic identity. There is no redemption or salvation reconstruction arc but, there sure as hell is a happily ever after.
The writing explores (explicitly at times) the intersectionality of reading fictional romance stories with exposed sexual dynamics and being raised within a purity cult(ure) that ties a woman’s sexual purity to her self-worth. The psychological connections between the sexual trauma that ingrains shame like a second skin believing your virtue is your value and erotic reading are discussed. It is also my non-fictional story, my experience in the unintentional years-long process of a ‘good girl’ losing her religion and fighting like hell to find herself. It unfolds between parallels of my own mind and the impact on relationships in my life, specifically and painfully with my parents.
The Good Girls Guidebooks are a reclaiming from that of its origin in indoctrination. Deconstructed from the subservient smallness of our expected roles to do as we were told, now we Good Girls step into our wholeness and choose who we will be.
This journey includes past references to unspecified abuse, undetailed SA recall, purity culture, boundaries, therapy, critical thinking, and parental estrangement.
How to Use: This is a strategic offering in finding yourself along the journey of deconstructing indoctrination. This guide offers the perspective of a gal who’s traveled this path, weathered some of its deepest wounds, and survived. It’s meant to offer community through shared personal experience.
It will create self-bonds such as trust, compassion, and love by articulating the harm that destroyed those foundations. The inquiries I use in my coaching partnerships, the curiosity that sparks true self wisdom, the ability to articulate and connect deeply to one's own values and the trust to question what authentically aligns and doesn’t with those values, that’s what has come to bear on this journey and these guides.
Through the power of internal inquiry, focused curiosity and resource reflection you will find another piece of your authenticity.
Tags: Good girl, ex-Christian, no-contact, therapy, deconstruction, religious trauma, purity culture, religion is a tool of mass destruction, abuse, undaughtered, grief, smut slut, healing, boundaries save minds, cliterature saves
Tropes: The greatest love story I will ever create is the one with myself. It’s got everything: enemies to lovers, kinky AF (if only ever in my mind), one bed, fated lovers, dark fantasy, scorned woman and a heroine who saves herself and maybe, hopefully, heals a few others too.
- learnings and reflections from personal experience
- curiosity led coaching questions to guide you in understanding your own experience
- journaling exercises with focused personal outcomes
- specific tools and resources to deepen self-knowledge
- references and cited research as well as book recommendations
- genuine support and smutty snark to encourage you with humor
The Good Girl’s Guidebooks allows you digital access (downloadable pdf) to both the felt community of lived experience from indoctrination, deconstruction, and the unconditional support of a professional coach who will champion your authenticity through powerful inquiry, expert exercises, reflective resources touched with just enough irreverence to keep you engaged in the work of reconstruction of identity.
Content Warnings: These guidebooks are a HOLY irreverent account of deconstructing the indoctrination of religion while forging deep interpersonal belonging and authentic identity. There is no redemption or salvation reconstruction arc but, there sure as hell is a happily ever after.
The writing explores (explicitly at times) the intersectionality of reading fictional romance stories with exposed sexual dynamics and being raised within a purity cult(ure) that ties a woman’s sexual purity to her self-worth. The psychological connections between the sexual trauma that ingrains shame like a second skin believing your virtue is your value and erotic reading are discussed. It is also my non-fictional story, my experience in the unintentional years-long process of a ‘good girl’ losing her religion and fighting like hell to find herself. It unfolds between parallels of my own mind and the impact on relationships in my life, specifically and painfully with my parents.
The Good Girls Guidebooks are a reclaiming from that of its origin in indoctrination. Deconstructed from the subservient smallness of our expected roles to do as we were told, now we Good Girls step into our wholeness and choose who we will be.
This journey includes past references to unspecified abuse, undetailed SA recall, purity culture, boundaries, therapy, critical thinking, and parental estrangement.
How to Use: This is a strategic offering in finding yourself along the journey of deconstructing indoctrination. This guide offers the perspective of a gal who’s traveled this path, weathered some of its deepest wounds, and survived. It’s meant to offer community through shared personal experience.
It will create self-bonds such as trust, compassion, and love by articulating the harm that destroyed those foundations. The inquiries I use in my coaching partnerships, the curiosity that sparks true self wisdom, the ability to articulate and connect deeply to one's own values and the trust to question what authentically aligns and doesn’t with those values, that’s what has come to bear on this journey and these guides.
Through the power of internal inquiry, focused curiosity and resource reflection you will find another piece of your authenticity.
Tags: Good girl, ex-Christian, no-contact, therapy, deconstruction, religious trauma, purity culture, religion is a tool of mass destruction, abuse, undaughtered, grief, smut slut, healing, boundaries save minds, cliterature saves
Tropes: The greatest love story I will ever create is the one with myself. It’s got everything: enemies to lovers, kinky AF (if only ever in my mind), one bed, fated lovers, dark fantasy, scorned woman and a heroine who saves herself and maybe, hopefully, heals a few others too.
The conscience I once thought a result of a high control religion, I can now see as a reflection of integrity to my own values. Without the oppressiveness of questioning my morality in every situation, I find clarity of character and decisiveness with greater ease. You see we don't need religion to be good and do good. When we free ourselves from the judgment of sin, we understand, we are good and we choose good.