Finding YOU After Losing Religion
They don't make guidebooks on how to find yourself. . . until now.
One of the most catastrophic damages that religious indoctrination inflicts is a loss of identity. We are denied the most fundamental rights to the formation of self. Women are defined not by who we are but, rather what we are to others. The expectations of our righteous roles are prioritized over our own wants and even needs. We are shamed for our thoughts and feelings. We are told our worth is our body.
Indoctrination compels you, congratulates you at every turn for your compliance into those roles deemed for you. It engrains a pattern of seeking external environments to create an internal sense of identity. Because we are controlled, taught that we cannot trust our own sinful nature, it is our belief that safety and security are things that others give us.
The flawedness of humans is not rooted in the original sin, but rather our individual willingness to be curious and brave enough to see our own truths.
Losing ourselves to roles that perform our goodness, we define 'self' by others wanting or needing us.
Who am I when I'm not performing a role, meeting someone else's expectations?
The foundations of what we understood about the world and ourselves crumble in deconstruction.
What's my purpose, my value and how do I know my worth now?
Devoting time to the exploration of self, building strong foundations of who we are and what systems we work to dismantle is an act of rebellion. It seeks to resist the regime that has and continues to idolize harm. In this way, it is our duty to learn about ourselves relentlessly, to fight to unlearn indoctrination and to build self-trust so deep it’s unshakable. It would be an honor to guide you.
The Good Girl’s Guidebooks allow you digital access (downloadable pdf) to both the felt community of lived experience from indoctrination, deconstruction, AND the unconditional support of a professional coach who will champion your authenticity through powerful inquiry, expert exercises, and reflective resources touched with just enough irreverence to keep you engaged in the work of reconstruction of identity.
Indoctrination compels you, congratulates you at every turn for your compliance into those roles deemed for you. It engrains a pattern of seeking external environments to create an internal sense of identity. Because we are controlled, taught that we cannot trust our own sinful nature, it is our belief that safety and security are things that others give us.
The flawedness of humans is not rooted in the original sin, but rather our individual willingness to be curious and brave enough to see our own truths.
Losing ourselves to roles that perform our goodness, we define 'self' by others wanting or needing us.
Who am I when I'm not performing a role, meeting someone else's expectations?
The foundations of what we understood about the world and ourselves crumble in deconstruction.
What's my purpose, my value and how do I know my worth now?
Devoting time to the exploration of self, building strong foundations of who we are and what systems we work to dismantle is an act of rebellion. It seeks to resist the regime that has and continues to idolize harm. In this way, it is our duty to learn about ourselves relentlessly, to fight to unlearn indoctrination and to build self-trust so deep it’s unshakable. It would be an honor to guide you.
The Good Girl’s Guidebooks allow you digital access (downloadable pdf) to both the felt community of lived experience from indoctrination, deconstruction, AND the unconditional support of a professional coach who will champion your authenticity through powerful inquiry, expert exercises, and reflective resources touched with just enough irreverence to keep you engaged in the work of reconstruction of identity.
How can I reconstruct my lost identity to find my authentic self?
What does reconstruction of self look like?
The intersection of purity culture survivor and romance reader, where the "good girls" find ourselves
How can I move towards healing my Good Girl identity?
They don't make guidebooks on how to find yourself. . . until now.
I've turned my writing and my Living Priority Life coaching method into guidebooks as an accessible, printable on-demand product serve you.
You will experience relentless support and guidance from someone whose been through it by:
- Help peeling the onion of indoctrination
- Shed layers of people pleasing and learn what pleases you
- Stop being who others need you to be and set boundaries that prioritize your needs
- Initiate your authentic self while moving from "I should" to "I want"
- Release shame and fear and embrace empowerment
- Examine sex shame and overcome purity culture wounds
- Learn how to unlearn with curiosity
You will experience relentless support and guidance from someone whose been through it by:
- Building self-trust
- Shedding the indoctrinated shame that sticks to your body and mind
- Creating internal listening and honing intuition
- Learning and feeding self-knowledge
- Letting your personality shine without performing
- Protecting the intimacy of your own mind
- Navigating the losses associated with deconstruction from high control religion, estrangement from people, communities, places
