The Good Girl's Guide to Finding Identity
Designed to be self-directed and easily accessible for any stage in reconstructing identity after deconstruction, each guidebook contains:
- learnings and reflections from personal experience
- curiosity led coaching questions to guide you in understanding your own experience
- journaling exercises with focused personal outcomes
- specific tools and resources to deepen self-knowledge
- references and cited research as well as book recommendations
- genuine support and smutty snark to encourage you with humor
Your Guide to Authenticity
The Good Girl’s Guidebooks allows you digital access (downloadable pdf) to both the felt community of lived experience from indoctrination, deconstruction, and the unconditional support of a professional coach who will champion your authenticity through powerful inquiry, expert exercises, reflective resources touched with just enough irreverence to keep you engaged in the work of reconstruction of identity.
Content Warnings: These guidebooks are a HOLY irreverent account of deconstructing the indoctrination of religion while forging deep interpersonal belonging and authentic identity. There is no redemption or salvation reconstruction arc but, there sure as hell is a happily ever after.
The writing explores (explicitly at times) the intersectionality of reading fictional romance stories with exposed sexual dynamics and being raised within a purity cult(ure) that ties a woman’s sexual purity to her self-worth. The psychological connections between the sexual trauma that ingrains shame like a second skin believing your virtue is your value and erotic reading are discussed. It is also my non-fictional story, my experience in the unintentional years-long process of a ‘good girl’ losing her religion and fighting like hell to find herself. It unfolds between parallels of my own mind and the impact on relationships in my life, specifically and painfully with my parents.
The Good Girls Guidebooks are a reclaiming from that of its origin in indoctrination. Deconstructed from the subservient smallness of our expected roles to do as we were told, now we Good Girls step into our wholeness and choose who we will be.
Content Warnings: These guidebooks are a HOLY irreverent account of deconstructing the indoctrination of religion while forging deep interpersonal belonging and authentic identity. There is no redemption or salvation reconstruction arc but, there sure as hell is a happily ever after.
The writing explores (explicitly at times) the intersectionality of reading fictional romance stories with exposed sexual dynamics and being raised within a purity cult(ure) that ties a woman’s sexual purity to her self-worth. The psychological connections between the sexual trauma that ingrains shame like a second skin believing your virtue is your value and erotic reading are discussed. It is also my non-fictional story, my experience in the unintentional years-long process of a ‘good girl’ losing her religion and fighting like hell to find herself. It unfolds between parallels of my own mind and the impact on relationships in my life, specifically and painfully with my parents.
The Good Girls Guidebooks are a reclaiming from that of its origin in indoctrination. Deconstructed from the subservient smallness of our expected roles to do as we were told, now we Good Girls step into our wholeness and choose who we will be.
How to Find Myself:
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How to Use: This is a strategic offering in finding yourself along the journey of deconstructing indoctrination. This guide offers the perspective of a gal who’s traveled this path, weathered some of its deepest wounds, and survived. It’s meant to offer community through shared personal experience.
It will create self-bonds such as trust, compassion, and love by articulating the harm that destroyed those foundations. The inquiries I use in my coaching partnerships, the curiosity that sparks true self wisdom, the ability to articulate and connect deeply to one's own values and the trust to question what authentically aligns and doesn’t with those values, that’s what has come to bear on this journey and these guides. Through the power of internal inquiry, focused curiosity and resource reflection you will find another piece of your authenticity. |
Tags: Good girl, ex-Christian, no-contact, therapy, deconstruction, religious trauma, purity culture, religion is a tool of mass destruction, abuse, undaughtered, grief, smut slut, healing, boundaries save minds, cliterature saves
Tropes: The greatest love story I will ever create is the one with myself. It’s got everything: enemies to lovers, kinky AF (if only ever in my mind), one bed, fated lovers, dark fantasy, scorned woman and a heroine who saves herself and maybe, hopefully, heals a few others too.
Tropes: The greatest love story I will ever create is the one with myself. It’s got everything: enemies to lovers, kinky AF (if only ever in my mind), one bed, fated lovers, dark fantasy, scorned woman and a heroine who saves herself and maybe, hopefully, heals a few others too.
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