About

A good girl who didn't set out not to believe in God, just believe in herself a little more.

I began applying my decade of professional coaching techniques to my personal beliefs. Between my powerful curiosity and expanding worldview, I came into focus. Once I understood that my goodness was innate, I could more clearly see the wounds, the shame and void of identity that indoctrination inflicted.

I wrote. I wrote my pain and my joy. Some days it poured out of me, others it wept like an unhealing wound. I wrote so I wouldn't let anyone gaslight me about what I had experienced. I write so I won't gaslight myself from my future.

Mine is a HOLY irreverent approach of forging deep interpersonal belonging and authentic identity. I'm the good girl who lost her religion and found herself. There is no redemption or salvation reconstruction arc but, there sure as hell is a happily ever after.

My writing, my voice is relentlessly supportive, fiercely vulnerable, shamelessly smutty, and painfully honest.

Alyssa Mullett, PC, Owner Living Priority Life

About Alyssa

Alyssa Mullett is a writer, professional coach, wife, mother, recovering human resource practitioner, and avid reader of everything, but especially romance. Alyssa writes about deconstructing from indoctrination, navigating family estrangement, love, and finding herself through writing with never-ending curiosity.

I have a greater purpose beyond my own healing and breaking generational trauma. My calling to personal greatness with writing that inspires, comforts, and shares the grief of thousands of other women who have won the hard-fought battle against indoctrination. My greatest treasure is my survivorhood, not my victimhood. My words are both weapon and wound healing. .

This journey which I named, Living Priority Life, has written the greatest love story...the love I have for myself.  Now I strive to live and illuminate others priority life -  driven by values, purposefully executed with acts of authenticity, supported by boundaries, habits, goals and so rich with meaning and happiness.

Before I discovered my cage, the outside in method of who I was continued as I began shaping myself into who I was by what I did. What I offered to the world, that was who I was. My value was in my paycheck and accolades. That was the professional fuel that created a very successful, by most terms, HR professional. What it did NOT create was a well-rounded, grounded individual. I was climbing the corporate ladder leading people and programs with the only self direction being up. The external environments that I created were informing my internal sense of identity, just like the indoctrination instructed. A life of numbed ignorance never letting anyone truly in or myself authentically out. The enormous burden of being of worth by what others see is a disease that infects us all. I am what people see, I accomplish. I am my body. Lies, all lies.

One of the aspects of my deconstruction and estrangement that I often overlook in retrospect is the unity of self. The wholeness of authenticity in all the spaces I choose. I no longer look to be or represent certain aspects of myself with the exclusion of some other part. There are no parts or personality traits that don't fit. I no longer choose belonging with people who don't see all aspects of me as indivisible. They can't "love the sinner and not the sin", "pray about" or "love me in spite of", because my wholeness won't be divided by their 'Christian love '. I no longer choose belonging with people who don't see all aspects of me as indivisible. I am whole. I am good.

Alyssa completed Duquesne University's Professional Coach Certification Program, recognized by the International Coach Federation (ICF) as an Accredited Coach Training Program.  Professional coaching harmonizes Alyssa's multi-faceted human resource experience and formal education. Coaching exemplifies her deep commitment to her own and your, journey of personal and professional discovery and achievement.

She's committed to curiosity, reconstruction of identity and determined to make self-enlightenment not-so-accidental. The only thing that brings her more passion than smut, is helping other women deepen their own self-knowledge with love. Alyssa believes women who understand themselves are able to live more authentically breaking the power of the systems (religion, patriarchy) that seek to control us.

On Medium Alyssa writes about deconstructing from indoctrination, navigating family estrangement, love and finding herself through writing with never-ending curiosity.  Read an introduction to her story here and support her writing directly by donating securing on Square.

To all the past versions of me, holy fuck! You badass, sexy, smart and loving soul, We did it. We survived! We experienced healing and we created unconditional love for ourselves. The best days are still coming; days filled with joy, curiosity, learning, hot sex and breath-taking love. You are indeed a very good girl and we are taking our rewards.

What I stand for and who I stand with; human rights FOR ALL, a woman's right to bodily autonomy, SCIENCE, Unlearning ingrained bias and doing the work of anti-racism, LGBTQIA+ equality, curiosity & critical thinking, reading is political and SMUT for Life, DEI Forever, Separation of Church & State, MAGA is a cult, Purity culture is abuse.